An Open Letter to Augie’s Dad

By Sheena Low

Dear Jon,

I want to take a moment to express my heartfelt appreciation for everything you do for our family. Your dedication and love shine through in countless ways, and it means so much to me.

Every morning, you take Augie out for those beautiful walks, exploring Bangkok while I enjoy some quiet time to read and journal. Those slow mornings are a precious gift that allow me to recharge. I’m also incredibly grateful for the way you respond to Augie’s night terrors, waking up at 2:00am to console her when I’m too exhausted to be present. You’re always the first to rise in the morning, pouring her milk into the bottle while I’m still lost in my dreams. Your thoughtfulness lets me take the time I need for myself, and I appreciate how you encourage me to spend time with friends.

I also admire your openness to improving our conflict resolution skills. You genuinely try to see my perspective, and that willingness to engage in difficult conversations strengthens our partnership. It’s reassuring to know that we’re in this together, sharing the load of parenthood.

Being a father today comes with unique challenges. You navigate the delicate balance of being present for Augie while also meeting traditional expectations of providing for the family. I see you stepping into the role of disciplinarian, ready to be the "bad guy" when I struggle to set boundaries. I appreciate your patience and strength in those moments, knowing that discipline is an important part of guiding Augie as she grows.

Your rough play with her—the laughter, the wrestling, the joy—is invaluable. Those moments are building blocks of a bond that will last a lifetime, teaching her that love is expressed through shared joy and connection.

I recognize that, unlike mothers, fathers often lack the support networks to share their experiences or vent frustrations. Society places expectations on you to maintain a strong front, but I want you to know it’s perfectly OK to seek support and share your struggles. You don’t have to carry that weight alone.

Your willingness to redefine what it means to be a father is paving the way for future generations. You’re showing that being a father is not just about providing; it’s about being engaged, vulnerable, and present.

Thank you for being such an incredible partner in this journey of parenthood. Your love, strength, and commitment allow me to pursue my own hopes and ambitions, reminding me that I don’t have to give up myself just because I’m a mother. Knowing the challenges my own mother faced alone makes me appreciate your support even more.

I celebrate you today and every day for the amazing father that you are. You are seen, you are appreciated, and you are loved.

With all my love,

Sheena

About the Author

Sheena is a mother to three-year-old August, runs Super Fly Honey, a brand that makes technical activewear for pole dancers around the world, and dreams about writing children’s books. After three years with a lot of yoga, deep friendships, purposeful retreats and IFS therapy, she realizes that becoming a mother is actually a superpower.